Sunday, March 11, 2012

Life and Death

Life and Death
At different times all of us face moments when we must let go of a loved one, friend, or even a pet to death. When that happens, we each deal with that loss in different ways depending on where we are emotionally and how close that loved one was.  When my own grandmother died last year, I felt heartbroken, and battered inside, as my daughter and I helped to care for her with the help of hospice during her last days. 

This in many ways was overwhelming, because my mother was recovering from a broken kneecap and ankle at that time as well.  My grandmother’s health spiraled downhill fast.  In just a few short weeks, she went from having an active life to being bedridden and needing 24-hour care until she finally passed away from congestive heart failure.

What I do remember about that time was a level of disconnection so I could be there to help take care of her so she could live out her life at home in her own bed where she wanted to be. The heartbreak was in watching her slip away a little more each day. Of knowing that our routine three days a week of making her breakfast, helping her shower, chatting on her porch each day and getting her on the bus to the senior center was at an end forever.

With love and sorrow, I helped to keep her in comfort as she had given comfort to us as kids. Her humor, and perky 4 feet of cuteness is no more.  What made me think of this was the news that a family friend had passed away on Friday from cancer.

Karen and Pete at my parents 50th Anniversary

Karen was a fellow Midland Park High School classmate and friend to my parents.  Her husband Pete and she where there Monday night dinner and cards partners for the past couple of years.  This tough straightforward woman was a genuine good person and the world was a better place for her having been in it.  I was a better person from having had her touch my life. I can only send my prayers and sympathy to her husband Peter at this time of loss and send a silent thank you for having been allowed the privilege of knowing her.

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As a recently married 46 year old I am in the process of finishing my degree. Working to take care of my family and live my life.Blogging, working, writing, and chugging along like most of us.  Who am I ? I am you, I am me, I am your mother, friend, the best and worst that we each have inside of us. I am a different perspective and find myself fascinated by the interesting moments in life.

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