There was no demanding to do what I wanted, definitely no back talk, because my mom would let me have it as would my dad, grandparents etc. if they heard it. Yet, we respected our elders, and still managed to feel cool. One of the advantages of going to school is I get to see and hear how other young people see the world. For the most part, they are incredibly smart, intuitive, articulate, and a pleasure to meet and know as people.
When I look as a parent, whose had my own experience with rebellion, and I/ME-ness I can see that they aren’t that different. Some feel entitled to what they have, what their parents do, and sacrifice for them. I am not saying this is good or bad, you can decide for yourself.
The reality is if we give our kids everything they want, they lose any sense of real appreciation for what they can do for themselves. We are not empowering them. Our society shows them they should have whatever they want. No expense is too high, to make your child happy.
Unfortunately, the message we are then giving them is to expect more.
One thing that bothers me is the feeling that some of these young people have that they have raised themselves because they are (Latch-Key) kids.
My answer is this, your family raises you, they teach you values, they are there when you get in trouble, and they are there when you get hurt. Watching TV and playing video games isn’t raising yourself. It doesn’t make you a parent. Those boring long conversations your parents have with you, that make you roll your eyes. It’s the gas, electric, food, and roof that your provided with. It’s the groundings, and punishments you get mad about. That is what raising a child is about, it’s being there even when you’re dog tired, or setting up a special time for a parent teacher conference. All of those little pieces added together are what makes a parent/family today.
I will apologize now for getting on my soap box, but sometimes we need to state the obvious, if not for others then for ourselves. Every parent out there needs to pat himself or herself on the back for a minute and remind yourself that you are really doing a good job, if you’re doing the best you can.