Saturday, June 02, 2012


Have you ever crossed paths with an ex years later at a function and said to yourself. “Thank God I had the brains to get out of that.” It isn’t hard to imagine it happening if it hasn’t happened to you yet. There are so many things in my life that I am thankful for on a daily basis. Getting out of bad relationships that were both demeaning and toxic is something I am truly thankful for.
There is of course a certain irony when we see firsthand that what we thought that person would become actually does happen. It lets us know that we were right to get out, and save ourselves from possibly years of misery and disappointment.
For many men and women toxic people can slowly suck the joy and life right out of you, they affect your self esteem and self worth making you doubt yourself and your judgement. Hopefully if you're reading this and in a toxic relationship you will see that there is time and you can find your way.

What I mean by toxic can be anyone one who belittles you, emotionally abuses you, abuses drugs or alcohol, or is just a plain old jerk off kind of person.
You don’t need them to be ok. Guess what, you are strong enough to survive and have a real life either on your own or with someone who will respect and love you. It isn’t easy and lord knows there are far too many people out there like I have described. The thing you have to remember is to never give up hope, never stop trying. You're never going to be able to change them or make them better. Their problems are theirs and they need to fix them not you. They may plead beg or even bully you to get you to stay with them but believe me it isn’t worth it.
Yes they will blame you for their problems, its a way for them to not look in the mirror. Here’s the thing, even if it seems impossible, and hard you are strong enough to survive. You would be amazed at the inner strength you find once you take that first step. Before you know it you will be living your own life finding yourself and become far more happy with life then you are in  your current situation.


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As a recently married 46 year old I am in the process of finishing my degree. Working to take care of my family and live my life.Blogging, working, writing, and chugging along like most of us.  Who am I ? I am you, I am me, I am your mother, friend, the best and worst that we each have inside of us. I am a different perspective and find myself fascinated by the interesting moments in life.

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