Monday, April 15, 2013

Goodbye Is Never Easy.................. Goodbye My Shooting Star

Derek Russell
Forked River, NJ

This Friday we said goodbye to one of those people who touch your life in so many ways. My daughters best friend Derek passed away on Friday, and for myself I feel like one of my own kids has passed away. I can not even imagine what those closest to him are feeling right now. No parent wants to bury their child. No mother wants to know that their child won't be there to love or even argue with good naturedly.
There are people that are a part of your life, and for my daughter Mara, Derek was hands down her best friend growing up. They were quite frankly the male and female versions of each other. Both Diva’s to the max, which occasionally made life insane.
As a single parent, I felt lucky that my daughter had such a close friend. Yes it did mean that they got into trouble, and rarely got caught at it. I know I was constantly torn between needing to scold them for their misdeeds and laughing at their ingenuity. As teenagers they had fun, they dared to laugh and be naught not unlike the sour patch kids, who are at first naught and then sweet.
Derek and Chrissy Grandma's Birthday

I can honestly say that when Derek was at my home there was lots of laughter,music, joking, and movie watching. There was genuine love and affection between both of my daughters and Derek. I do not believe there is any member of my family he did not touch in some positive way.

He would call my grandma and pretend to be her friend from the center and just talk on the phone with her. You may be thinking thats mean, but it made her day and I always knew when he called because she would talk about her friend calling her.It brought some light into her lonely days. Derek was like that, he would stop in and visit her, come to her birthdays. He was even a part of my parents 50th wedding anniversary.
For myself he helped me to find my laughter again. No matter how tired I was, no matter how disillusioned with the world around me. He would push until he had me laughing with him. He would tease me unmercifully and in many ways reminded me that I was still a person. That I still needed to live my own life.
Derek and Mara  mom and dads 50th Anniversary
This wonderful young mans shining star burned out much too soon, for all of us. I know he will be missed by many. People always say it is what you do with your life that matters in the end. Derek had his faults, but at the end of the day, he loved those around him with an honesty of spirit that I can only admire. He gave of himself to those he loved, unselfishly, touching and changing us all forever. I can only believe that he was meant to bring so much vitality and joy into this world,to help those around him learn how to live, because he would leave us all so soon. I will miss you sweet boy.

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