Monday, July 15, 2013

What if Nothing Matters.............What if Everything Matters?


Someone once told me “What if nothing matters”, he then took it further and said, “What if everything matters all the time?” He was in fact quoting an album from John Mellencamp.  For many of us life is overcoming one obstacle after another. We don't glide through life we live it, struggling each day to survive and take care of our families.
Life is about what happens during it and the things that matter. Maybe not in the big picture of the world but in our circle ,our family, it all matters. When our son or daughter struggles as a teenager, it is important. When a loved one grows old and we have to struggle to decide if we are able to take care of them at home, or whether to put them in a nursing home for care, it can be an anguishing decision.
When people say that their life is perfect one has to look closer. It isn’t that they are being dishonest but perhaps that the things they must overcome each day are just different than our own. No worse or better, just that their perspective and ability to see what they have is more clear. There will always be people who see life as a horrible mess. That is just human nature, the glass is half full or half empty idea.
What is important to remember here is that life is to be lived. In my 46 years on this earth, the one consistent I have learned is that there is nothing we cannot overcome except death. The everyday struggles that make us angry, cry, laugh, or say I hate life. Each part is what shapes us into who we are. As I watch all of these young people coming up, starting out in life struggling, focusing on wants versus needs, I can't help but feel for them.

There are few exceptions, those who actually hit the ground running due to circumstance, but in general their attitude is so very different. Most are so far from ready to stand on their own two feet, it is a little frightening. It will be interesting to see how they come to cope with the world. Will they take the root of self medication, to numb them to the realities of the world? Or perhaps ignore the realities of living by tuning it out through all of their electronic devices.
In my own little corner of the world I will continue to choose living life to the fullest. Taking pleasure in the magical moments that shine through our struggles. For me it is those moments that make it worthwhile. It can be something as simple as a hug or a brief moment of quiet enjoying looking at your hard work in the yard. Or watching your 2 year old grandson laugh uproariously after you spin him around and around. They are all important, and show us that life is to be lived, and not bottled up on a shelf.
In the end “What if nothing matters?” Does it really make a difference in how we should view the world? After all the here and now could very well be what is matters........................it could be all there really is.


I can only admire people who can take joy in the silliness of life. Those who steal our hearts with their innate ability to make us laugh because they dare to live and are not tied down by hang ups. Thank you Markie D....

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As a recently married 46 year old I am in the process of finishing my degree. Working to take care of my family and live my life.Blogging, working, writing, and chugging along like most of us.  Who am I ? I am you, I am me, I am your mother, friend, the best and worst that we each have inside of us. I am a different perspective and find myself fascinated by the interesting moments in life.

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