Saturday, August 23, 2014

When it’s Time to Let Them Go….

When It’s Time to Let Them Go….
     Many parents, not unlike myself are either dropping off their adult children at college or getting ready for that first good-bye. No matter how you slice it, it is still one of the most bittersweet moments in life. As a mother you bring your children into this world, hold them close loving them throughout the years as they grow. You bandage scraped knees, listen to hopes and dreams and give countless hugs and kisses. If you’re lucky your there for the fun crazy times as well as the bad. Our children are our greatest gift, and letting them loose in a world that we know can often be cruel and unkind goes against our very nature.
     It’s a part of letting go, the first big part. This is my third time doing this, and each child was a little bit more heartbreaking as my nest empties out. I know I raised them to be strong young women, each individual and fiercely independent beautiful and unique to me. We know there will be nights we will worry, and want to call just to make sure everything is alright. It isn’t easy stepping back. Releasing them to learn to live on their own. No matter how ready they may think they are, in our heart’s we worry, are they? Ready? Did I teach them all they need to know? Love them as much as I could.

     Will they call me if they get into trouble if they get lonely and just need to talk? Each one is different, leaving for different reasons wanting that first taste of being in charge. At least to a point. I know for myself I dread my daughters going away, it scares me spit-less and gives me cold sweats. In some ways, I wish I could close the door and go with her but I know that isn’t fair to her. She’s earned the right, she did the work and bravely made the choice to go to school in a new city away from home and family.
     That changes a person, sometimes in good ways and sometimes in bad. Until it happens as a parent you don’t know which way it will go, we can only hope and pray that the lessons we taught will stay with them. That they will always remember where home is should they need it as an adult.
     I listened today to a psychologist talk about how many young people go to college and then return home. I almost had to laugh, her view was that it was wrong for adult children to come home for more than a few months. In many ways I disagree.
      I believe that there is strength in numbers but that each of us must find ourselves first. That we as a culture have forgotten that where others have not.
 My baby is leaving home for school, and as I get ready to drop her off in a week the taste is bittersweet. I know the time has come to let her go, let her fly and become who she is meant to be...

A woman of character and strength, a woman I love.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Racheal Awakened Available Through Amazon

Finally without further ado Racheal Awakened is now available on Amazon for kindle. Please leave positive feedback if you liked the book. Thank you.  

Racheal Awakened is available on Amazon for Kindle here is the link for the book. Rachael Awakened (Daughters of Lilith Series). It will be available for a special introductory price for the next three days. Don't miss out get your copy today.Available in paperback as well follow link.

OOP’s They Did it Again When Dr's Screw Up

OOP’s They Did it Again

My first job in life is as a parent to my children. They are what matters and as an adult I need to be their biggest advocate when they need me. A week ago I took my ten-year-old son to the ER, when he turned his ankle playing. No mind you I’m not that parent who thinks everything is someone else’s fault and an excuse to sue someone. Pooh happens when you have kids. The get into trouble at time's accidents and as a parent we do what were supposed to by taking them to the Dr.

All of that is fine and good, but I cannot help but get extremely frustrated when a Dr. dismisses a child’s injury because they aren’t acting like a drama queen screaming, crying and carrying on. My son is tough, especially when he is in front of his friends or strangers. That doesn’t mean he won’t scream like a girl if he cuts himself at home. However as a child he looks up to his dad who is tough, when it comes to injuries. If this was a one shot incident, I don’t believe I would be so upset but the fact that the Dr., who treated him, dismissed his injury as a sprain and entirely missed that his ankle was actually broken. My son will be in a cast for the next six weeks, with strict instructions not to walk on his cast at all.

As a parent, I find this horrifying that a professional would miss a break in a kids' leg. Or not look more closely because he walked in on his own steam at his own insistence. If this had been the only child, I have had this happen with I could possibly understand it, but it isn’t. Almost 15 years ago I went through the exact same thing when my daughter broke both bones in her arm. At the time, the Dr. insisted it was only a bruise and never requested an ex-ray.

My husband and I both questioned it when we saw she was favoring her arm holding it in close to her body. I took her to the ER and insisted on an ex-ray and thankfully the break to both bones were clearly visible. She was casted and eventually healed from the injury. We didn’t sue anyone or even blame anyone for it because bottom line she was alright. My son will be alright as well in time, what upsets me though is that as a soccer player, his season is about to start, and he would have very possibly injured his ankle more severely at the break not been caught.

Having worked in the medical field for almost fifteen years, I do have a tremendous amount of respect for nurses and doctors in the medical field. Their job is not an easy one, nor a responsibility I would want. I know that perhaps this is mostly venting but take this as cautionary. If you have a child or a loved one who doesn’t carry on when they get hurt, don’t allow the medical profession to dismiss them for it. Step up to the plate at tell them, “Hey my son or daughter is a tough cookie, they don’t act like a drama queen when they get hurt. They act like a stoic adult so figure it out and get it right.”

I’ve never been afraid of confronting a professional if I know they are blowing smoke up my behind. Especially if I know they are dead wrong. Instead of suing everyone, maybe we should instead hold them accountable for their mistakes. Call them on it and make them aware they are wrong. Dr.’s can be arrogant and demanding but sometimes they can also be wrong.

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